Some people are naturally more confident than others, but we all get knocked down every now and then. How do you get back up? Or, how do you get started? Here are a few tips to help boost your confidence and accomplish everything you’re meant to.
1. Remember that you’re unique
In a society that tells us looking and acting a certain way is required to succeed, it’s easy to forget how unique you are. Take a moment to stop and think. What makes you different? What are you really good at? What do you enjoy? Write down a list and don’t forget about it! Tape it somewhere you’ll see it each day- maybe your bathroom mirror or refrigerator. It should serve as a reminder that you have a lot to offer this world, and whatever that may be is completely different than what someone else has to offer.
2. Accept your weaknesses
No one is good at everything. As you’re writing down what you’re good at, write down what you’re not so good at. Don’t be afraid to do this. Recognizing your weaknesses takes away some of their power. You can improve almost anything with a little effort, but dwelling on your weaknesses will only decrease your self confidence. Accept them, ask for help or support if you need it, and go from there.
3. Write and say positive affirmations
It may sound cheesy, but affirmations are powerful. Write down 5-10 affirmations that you can say every day upon waking and every night before bed. Look in the mirror as you say them to yourself. Here are a few ideas to get you started:
- I am a confident person and I have a lot to offer this world.
- I am deserving of love, success and happiness.
- I can make a difference in this world.
When you repeatedly say these things, you will actually begin to believe them. If you don’t enjoy looking in the mirror, close your eyes and sit in a quiet place to say these each day.
4. Challenge yourself
Sometimes you have to shake things up a little to gain some confidence. If you’ve been doing the same job in the same place with the same people for a long time, you may have forgotten that you’re capable of overcoming adversity and conquering a challenge. Try something new- maybe a new fitness class, an art class or a trip somewhere you’ve never been. Take a friend with you if you’re a little nervous. Whatever you decide on, remember to say your positive affirmations before you go! Let them sink in and watch what happens.
5. Pick the right people
If you want to get somewhere new or achieve a new goal, you need to surround yourself with people who are doing those things and working towards the same goals. You need to be inspired and you need to see people who have accomplished what you want to. Surround yourself with inspirational and positive people. Find a mentor. Distance yourself from people who hold you back or only have negative words to offer.
What helps boost your confidence when you’re feeling stuck?